On the Desire to Live and Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking
by: LoreleiF
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As I thought about helpful hints for quitting smoking this week I could not help but think of my dad, who passed away last week. Now he did not pass away from lung cancer, nor did he smoke any of the days that I ever knew him. However what I could see was that the last few years of his life had been very much bereft of the joy of living.
By the end of his life my father had lost most of the things that had always formed his very happy personality. He could not tell a joke or sing a song. He could not be silly, jump about, or play with the grandchildren. In short he could not do anything except doze in a chair all day and sleep all night. He had all manner of ailments, not the least of which had been diabetes, so even the food he once loved was no longer his to enjoy.
Now it may seem odd to talk about this in a blog entitled "Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking." So I will tell you that I consider this blog to be more along the lines of an inquiry- and I do not have all the answers.
No, I never claimed to be the world's foremost specialist on quitting smoking- if there is such a person. But I am pretty highly trained in why people do what they do, and how people can shift that. And I know a heck of a lot about addiction. And that is all very well and good, but neither I nor anyone else can quit smoking for you, no matter how much we know.
So as an inquiry, I mull over the fact that my dad had in some ways lost his heart and soul, and in fact his will to live. Now it is true that he struggled about leaving the rest of us behind. But in the final analysis, his will to be 'done with it all' won out.
And also as an inquiry I have to wonder how much success a person would have in quitting smoking if he or she were not very happy in life. I have to think that if there is terminal upset, chronic pain or sadness around one's life, or if one is in some unhappy situation, the drive to fulfill some background desire to end it all might be quite strong. And smoking is certainly a socially acceptable way to do it without looking like you are.
Now I would be the last one to say that all people who smoke are fulfilling death wishes. Smoking is an addiction and it is pretty hard to conquer the physical and emotional cravings. However I do say that it is probable that my blog on helpful hints for quitting smoking will not be useful to those who are actually living lives of misery. There would almost have to be some latent, or blatant, desire to stop the pain, somehow.
So if you are someone in this kind of situation it becomes vital that you A) Be honest with yourself about your unhappiness, and B) Take the steps to begin to create your happiness. This will in turn give you the will to live. And you can do this while you are doing your Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or hypnosis, or whatever you like. You can start the process by visiting my other blogs. My dad, by the way, loved life and he lived to be happy before he became so desperately ill. And you can live that way too, I'm sure.
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For more help with your and your loved ones' addicitions visit the sites of well-known expert and Ontology specialist Lorelei F at helpfulhintsforquittingsmoking and at secondhandaddiction You are welcome to reprint this article - but get your own unique content version here.
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